Lucky you. Since my mom and sister are gone, and I am the only one in the office this morning, I have noone to vent to, so my poor blog must serve as my sounding board today!

This post will probably be all over the board and make no sense, sorry.

Will and I got into an argument last night that left me feeling lousy. He is the best husband ever and is forever surprising me with little things and constantly showing his love for me. I do the same, but we show it in different ways. During our premarital counseling, we read the book The 5 Love Languages (GREAT book). My love language is time. I feel the most loved when Will is spending quality time with me. Will’s love language is affirmation. Kind and encouraging words make him feel the most loved. However, he has what the book calls a second “dialect,” which is gifts. He also feels love is expressed to him when someone gets him a gift or a surprise or something thoughtful. Well, I confess… I have lacked in the secondary.

Yesterday I had a dentist appointment to get my splint (I have an onset of TMJ). Earlier that day Will had asked if I wanted to go to a movie that he had really wanted to go see, and I said yes. The movie started at 4:45 and my appointment was at 4:20. So I get into the dentist chair and Will calls, already at the theatre, and wanted to know about what time I would be coming. I told him I would be later and if he wanted he could buy my ticket and wait for me, and we would probably just miss the previews. By that time my dentist had come in, so I had to cut things short. After my five minute appointment I called Will and he was on his way home (which wasn’t in the plan). Anyway, to make a long story short there was a lot of talking about things last night and it came down to a couple of things. They really don’t have a lot to do with the situation that had happened, but they stemmed from it I guess you could say. Will said he was feeling like he is constantly doing thoughtful things for me and not getting any “surprises”in return. I felt horrible. I guess I have concentrated so much on affirming him that I lost sight of his need for gifts of thoughtfulness. I will leave him lots of nice notes around the house and text message him sweet things, but it has been a while since I bought him a Sports Illustrated “just because,” so I felt pretty bad. Will “controls” the checkbook, which can sometimes make it difficult to plan a surprise without him knowing. I don’t have to plan some extravagant event all of the time, I just need to do little things to let Will know he is appreciated. I felt pretty bad. So ladies… what are some REALLY inexpensive things you do for your husband? With all of the costs of moving I really want to do somethings special because of all he has been doing for our move, but our finances have taken a hit with all of the unforseen costs. Anyway, I was thinking of making him some good things to eat tomorrow and watching the NFL draft- literally an ALL DAY event- that Will has been looking forward to for weeks now. Its all he talks about.

So anyway, that was my evening last night. I apologized to Will and told him I will show him better outwardly what I feel inside inwardly.  Am I making sense? Who knows.

Tonight I have my scholarship banquet. I received a full scholarship to my college and tonight all of the 4 years honor we seniors who are about to graduate. It’s exciting but in some ways sad too. It’s been a great 4 years.

Thanks for listening.