A few years ago, when my heart was incredibly hardened, I would come unglued at the thought of people coming over to our house.
I was in graduate school, working full time, stressed out of my mind. Seemingly any little deviation from normalcy would derail me.
I would have such an ugly attitude.
Since I was in school at the time, our house was
a disaster not as tidy as I hoped, so I would take off Friday and spend the whole day cleaning.
Cussing, and cleaning.
Angry and ugly.
I was mad my plans and schedule were interrupted, and I was always relieved when our guests left.
Oh friends, when I look back I was seemingly forever in a state of total pissed-off ness. Sorry for the term, but it is so very true.
You’d never know on the outside, but I did. I know Will saw plenty of glimpses of my ugly heart, too.
That’s the funny thing about the heart. You might be able to fool a lot of people, but you can’t fool God.
As you have hopefully seen over the last couple years, The Lord has been doing a work in my heart and in drawing me back to him.
He restored me, cleansed my filth, and made me new.
I look back over the course of the last several months and see His guiding hand over so many changes in my life.
Hosting family last weekend was yet another confirmation of His grace.
He is so good to me.
I never would have looked forward to hosting four people overnight before, and yet this time I did.
The Bible says to be hospitable without grumbling, and with his spirit and help, I was able to actually do that!
I enjoyed preparing for our guests last weekend. I got excited thinking about ways to serve them.
I made little gift bags.
While I cleaned, I didn’t stress about the details.
I simply thought about having our family with us and enjoying their company, and less about my selfishness and being “put out.” I didn’t feel that way at all! I was blessed to host them.
Who the heck is this lady!?!
Girls, The Lord has blessed us richly, and we should enjoy opening up our homes to others and sharing his blessings and love.
I realize I sound all fluffy, and that I’m making this transformation seem so easy.
Trust me, I’m not.
However, Jesus is able to transform even the hardest of hearts.
So how are ways we can begin that transformation and be the hostess with the mostess?
1. Be thankful
I find when I’m worrying less about what others have and what I don’t have, I’m much more conscious of what I do have.
Practicing gratitude is a must if you’re going to be a good host.
I decided to worry less about dirty outside windows and more on ways I could show my guests I loved them.
I decided not to worry about my house not being fully decorated in some places, and more about the many blessings God has given me and our house.
2. Be generous
Everything good and perfect thing comes from God.
It’s His, and it’s important to keep that in mind.
He’s given me a beautiful house he’s allowed me to live in, and I can’t help but feel compelled to share these blessings and God’s goodness with others.
Proverbs tells us that when we are generous we will prosper, and when we refresh others, we are in turn refreshed.
Instead of feeling like the life is sucked out of me, I want to feel like I’m willingly giving myself to others.
For example, I got totally giddy at the thought of making them little goody bags!
Just a simple mindset change actually blessed and refreshed me just as I prayed I would refresh my guests.
3. Be a servant
You don’t hear that much these days, do you?
I would often scoff at all the cooking, cleaning, and laundry associated with overnight visitors.
However, the more I prayed for God to soften my heart and make me more like him, the more I desired and actually looked forward to serving my guests.
I took joy in cooking something yummy for them, or laying out freshly scented towels.
I wanted them to see God’s love in me, and the best way I felt like I could do that was to serve them with an undivided heart.
4. Ask for a heart change
Sometimes, just like my story, we need a heart readjustment. No amount of trying to serve or be grateful can change us if it doesn’t first start with our heart.
Oh friends I’ve so been there!
The good news is that He makes water flow in even the driest deserts.
He can change your heart towards being the hostess with the mostess and a whole lot more if you let him.
But it’s our choice. We have to choose to turn away from or junk and let Him be Lord.
So what’s it going to be?
Here’s to hoping you show some hospitality to your family this weekend!
It’s Will’s birthday weekend, so I intend to do just that! Our weekend involves a peanut butter ice cream cake. HELP!!
Check in Monday! ❤️